I was so in love and my ex was the only person in the whole world that mattered to me. And now, my heart is split into two and I don't think I can last a minute without that person by my side.
But I haven't realized something. My sweet old mate is having fun, loads of fun.
The break-up hasn't bothered my ex much, and he've moved on. If it really was mutual love till the last breath of the relationship, then why did my ex actually walk out on me? And why am I the one who seems to be suffering?
Now perhaps the break up was mutual, but most mutual break-ups don't hurt much. So if my heart aches, then it's probably because I'm still in love with my ex. And gasp, the love is one sided!
Here's every single thing I need to do after a break up to ensure a speedy recovery and a quick jump into happy land.
#1 GET IT TO DEFINITELY END
My partner told me something like "I think we can't go on, it's just hard. I still like you a lot though… You're still special, but I'm really sorry…"
You know what, lines like these are the reason why my heart aches. Soft words make me feel like there could still be a chance for the both of us, maybe even in the far future, and I end up thinking about my old love over and over again.
What I need is a clear answer that he want to break up with me because he'd had enough with me. I've tried to get those words out of his mouth, and I'd feel a lot better, even if it hurts initially.
#2 LOSE ALL CONTACT
After my true undying love has come to an end, I have to break all contact with my ex or I will go mad. My ex will find me if he want to. The worst part is that my ex already knows me want him back, and he don't care about it. I take that as a sign, and walk away for good.
#3 GET ACTIVE
Get my butt out and do something I used to enjoy doing, even if I don't feel like it.
It is, staring at the wall with mild fascination and feeling sorry for myself is very appealing at a time like this, but this is another thing I need to simply force myself to avoid.
Start a project and make myself complete it.
#4 THROW AWAY ALL REMINDERS
Let my ex's name and memories be erased from my life forever.
Throw away old love letters, pictures, gifts, clothing and the 'ulos' that he gave me out of my living area. As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds me of my ex, I discard it. This can save my sanity.
#5 HANG OUT WITH MY FRIENDS
Let my buddies give me a reality check on how my ex wasn't all that great to be with, and that there are more fish in the sea.
I've been detonated in love before and most of me will likely get detonated again. So there's nothing wrong in being dumped, right? So talk, and talk until I feel better.
#6 REMEMBER THE BAD TIMES
If I feel nostalgic, then think of all the times he hurt me. That should do it. Remember the time I caught my mate flirting with others behind my back? or sleeping with bunch of others women that I thought he never would. Nobody wants those moments back. I use those thoughts to bring myself back to reality.
#7 DON'T IDOLIZE MY MATE
My ex may have been prince charming or the snow princess in my eyes. But not everyone thinks the same about him. My love for my mate is what made me overlook his imperfections and think that he was the best I could ever get. Get realistic, and take him off the pedestal in my head.
Stop idolizing him and treat him the same way I treat any of your other bad people. Stop gazing lovingly at pictures of my old sweetheart.
Don't jump to answer his text or phone calls. He's no longer deserve preferential treatment.
LET'S START BY DOING IT!!